Thank you to everyone that supported me on my last post– here, on twitter and even in person (you know who you are). This all has caused a lot of thinking and analyzing (shocking I know).
I have come to the conclusion that this person has a different style- professionally and personally. We will never be on the same page. When I have tried I just fail. But I realized I shouldn’t be trying. I have done my job and been a manager for a LOOOONNNGGG time. Every job I have ever had I have always been promoted and or received raises to keep me there. I haven’t always been the most “professional”, probably more like eccentric. But I dress up and play the part when needed. But because of my “informalness” I am approachable. I am really damn good at what I do and respected by all I work with.
My husband told me I needed to provide this link to the person. To show that “collegial” and being with the group is okay. Since this person isn’t trusting me or recognizing that I am successful and I do receive positive feedback from so many people, especially in the workplace. Clearly I am not as successful as Sergio but it shows that being a polished professional wearing the best suits and having a stick up your ass or whatever isn’t what makes someone a good leader. But then I realized I don’t care anymore what this person thinks.
I have options. I actually have lots of options. I can’t go into detail here yet about what I have done or am doing. But it really is true that everything happens for a reason. Maybe I needed to be upset that day to see the other open door. Hopefully I will be able to walk through that door and that it will be right. Although if not I am confident something will happen. As a good friend has always told me- things will work out because they have to.
Anyways, thank you, all of you, for helping me get my confidence back. I really needed it.